What draws us, even compels us, to love and desire one person rather than another? There will, no doubt, be a range of superficial similarities: points of connection, looks, attitudes and interests shared. But that’s the case with our friends as well – and we do not usually look at our friends in the same way we regard our lover. One convincing theory is that we see in our gay lover [ … ]

In matters of partner selection, it hardly needs saying that different gay men pursue different qualities, but can be worth remembering that different people desire and love in different ways. Reflecting on how you love, and how others might love, can be beneficial when seeking a partner, or merely a date [ … ]

There’s something about best friends. You love them, you share everything with them, but you don’t really want to have hot gay sex. Except maybe once…

Usually when we fight, and especially in relationships, it is our own internal anger and conflict we are expressing. Yes, there are times in life when we need to stand [ … ]

It can be like swimming with sharks when you first hit the scene, the sprawl of clubs and bars in whichever big city you’re nearest to. When you enter the [ … ]

It can feel such a sexy thrill to submit completely to a dominant partner, to the point where we lock our cock and balls in a chastity device and give [ … ]

The first time, or several times, that you have a boyfriend, it can be the case that there’s an explosive release of hopes, dreams, desires and pent-up emotions. You feel [ … ]

Mixed age relationships can be challenging for both the older and younger partner. It isn’t only what your friends might say. It’s also to do with the meeting of differences [ … ]

True intimacy can be a challenge to achieve and many people are wary of risking it. A lot of guys we meet are up for sex and many interpret the [ … ]

Romance strikes! The two of you wake the next morning, take a long look in each other’s eyes, and realise you actually still fancy each other! In a perfect world, [ … ]

Flirting is massively underrated but it’s a great way to make someone desire you! Let your partner know that you want him and, if you’re feeling brave, give him a [ … ]

You’ve had a wonderful evening. You dined well, perhaps saw a play, spent a little more time than you’d planned getting lost in the noise of your favourite bar. Now [ … ]

This is a game about power and submission. Because it is a game it can help you enjoy those power positions, as it were in quotation marks. You are not [ … ]

The first flush of romance is over. For the last few days or weeks he’s been everything you ever wanted. The sex is outstanding, his skin feels great, and the [ … ]

It’s the younger who often assume they’re in a one-on-one relationship just because they’ve had sex once. Expectations run sky-high and are often unsustainable – though sometimes our earliest relationships [ … ]

Casual sex isn’t anonymous sex – i.e. when you don’t talk, don’t know each other’s name, don’t particularly want to. Casual sex takes place between two people who talk, like, [ … ]