Growing up gay as a young teen can be a lonesome prospect. Do the math and even in a big school there probably aren’t too many of us there and, of those, several might be struggling. Our Enlightened Times have a way to go yet. Issues, issues, issues – home, religions, other guys – even straight guys worrying over who they are sexually [ … ]

We’re often told that dildos and butt plugs enhance masturbation both by stimulating the anus and by exerting pressure from inside on the prostate, the male G spot. Result: bigger, harder erections and a more intense experience of orgasm. There’s truth in this, though the reality is a little more complicated. To get the most from masturbation with sex toys [ … ]

Your big gay cock doesn’t always have to go in whichever orifice seems nearest and most convenient. Imagine: no top, no bottom, just two guys having a great time jacking off. Here’s how it goes [ … ]

Al fresco gay sex is great fun!  (Disclaimer: legalities might be entailed; don’t scare the natives!) Sure, for some there’s the trundling around – sorry: cruising – the bushes of your local common – the name of which for others says it all. (And who said romance was dead?!) For the more loving among us, for ourselves and our partners, it’s just nice to get out somewhere, with the breeze and the scent of wild heather [ … ]

Although I don’t like the labels of ‘top’ and ‘bottom’ and I believe that every gay man should experience being both, I myself prefer to bottom. All too often, bottoms just lie there and take it, but they don’t really participate because they don’t think that there is anything they can do. I disagree and the following is a list of things to try as a bottom…

It can be a slow gay-love position – and the prostate sensation is great. Build it into the earlier stages of your next sex session, or, if you’re aiming for [ … ]

Have you tried it? Do you like it? For many men, the nipples are hot-wired straight to the groin. And this isn’t a toll route. If your partner is a [ … ]

Playing with dildos, as with other more manual ways of pleasuring the anus, can lead to a lot of insecurity. Sure, one is similarly passive while being given a blow-job, [ … ]

Switching sex positions mid-process adds spice to your sex life, but if you’re not in a sex-tech mood can feel disruptive, in the absence of a good choreographer. Still, finding that same old gay position and staying there hours (optimistically [ … ]

The prime directive when performing oral sex is absolutely to want it – and that’s for as long as it takes. It isn’t a chore or a favour. It isn’t just something you give him. You’re pleasuring yourself as well. You’re giving your mouth a treat. And if that’s the way you set about it, all else follows.

It seems a win-win situation. Each works on the other. Mouth and penis are satisfied. Each gives and receive at once. The trouble is, it can get confusing. How, after all, do you concentrate on giving a world-class blow-job when you’re writhing in the throws of what he’s giving you? True, side to side takes the pressure off, and for a languid, exploratory half hour can be about right, but if what you want is that pressure then someone’s going to have to be top…

To some it’s the final indignity, to others a great psychological fix – all those years, and still you’re allowed to be a baby – and a great way of getting the blood to flow for scintillating skin sensation…

As fetishes go, dressing up in the kind of costumes you’ll find in a high street sports shop has much to recommend it. Those strange, clingy tracksuits – or shell [ … ]

First off: we must say that this is not a safe sexual practice. No matter HIV, there are plenty of other STIs doing the round. They may sound like names of Greek gods, but you don’t want them. (Vaccinating for Hep A&B can be a good thing.) [ … ]

Anal sex is often seen as the definitive form of gay love-making. You might think, and be pressured to think, that if you’re not doing it, be you top, bottom [ … ]

Use group sex to freshen a relationship or to play with friends and strangers. If you’re in a relationship and thinking of bringing another guy in, make sure that’s something both you and your partner want and that neither of you is going to feel jealous – or shocked and uncomfortable at seeing and sharing you with another man [ … ]