Should you watch porn with your partner? Truth is, it’s a bad mistake to ignore pornography – even if your overall view is to find it disgusting. Fact is, porn is a major driver of the internet – with as many as a quarter of all searches being pornography related. That’s almost 70 million hits a day and masses of erotic viewing!
Let’s deal with solo viewing first. Now just because a man gets excited by looking at a porn star with big boobs and a gaping vulva doesn’t mean that he isn’t attracted by his real life partner. Oh, and by the by, men are mentioned first and the assumption is they consume more porn, where major sex site Pornhub showed that actually women watch more porn than men do – at least in terms of time spent.
Porn Vs Real Sex
Trust that both genders know the difference between what is real sex with you and what is fake with porn stars. Everyone needs to get over the fact that their partners can be turned on by others. It’s almost inconceivable that at various points in the course of a relationship of any length, a partner will be fantasizing about someone other than the person they are with.
Some may think that getting off on others in naked romps is equivalent to infidelity. Yet this thinking goes against a basic driver of human sexuality – virtually all of us find variety to be a spice of life. So not objecting to your partner getting off on erotica shouldn’t wreck your relationship, but denying them from doing to do might not only strain it but lead to them to be accessing it deceitfully.
The Case for Watching Porn Together
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at being true, there is a good case to be made for watching porn together. It allows you to see your partner’s arousal by another body for what it is – mainly a biological response to an erotic stimulus. And, as such, there’s no need for you to feel threatened or insecure. Joint viewing isn’t just about one partner’s tastes and predilections but what gets you both off. Show each other what turns you on. Share your fantasies in what should be a mutually pleasurable experience.
Indeed, a recent study found that those who watch more pornography alone tend to have lower-quality relationships. On the other hand, it found a positive association with sexual intimacy where men and women who increased their porn-watching together also reported greater sexual intimacy over time. It turns out that just as when a couple shares a hobby, they are investing in the longevity of their relationship – that is even more true in sharing erotic experiences for the benefit of their sex life.
Turning to sex videos on the internet together can be an easy path for each to learn about their partners’ fantasies. Some people are shy or may feel ashamed about revealing their sexual fantasies to their partner. Then again, some others may not even know what really gets them off, much less what gets their partner hot. For instance, Pornhub stats show that many women who identify as straight enjoy watching male gay porn – and a fair few enjoy lesbian porn, too. Of course, as with female rape fantasies, it is one thing to find it a turn-on in the imagination but a total no-no in reality. Now, with the click of a computer key, there’s access to an endless cornucopia of porn stars and out-there amateurs performing every possible sexual act.
With so much around, it is inevitable that nearly everyone is viewing porn (a Canadian study couldn’t find one single person that hadn’t!). Viewing it together allows for honesty and openness about one’s habits and desires, rather than feeling like they are shameful secrets that must be kept hidden.
Let us add in a note of caution, though – that these attitudes may not be applicable to all couples. No doubt those who have good communication skills, are strong in their sexual intimacy, and whose outlooks are sexually liberal, will be almost certain to find that watching porn together is a very positive way to further explore their sexuality. Those couples who have negative views about pornography, or who suffer relationship conflicts, may find that watching porn together may deepen these concerns and so have a negative effect on their relationships. And others may have a great relationship without watching porn. It takes all sorts!
Couples That Play Together Stay Together
Finally, though, for many, the fact is that sex is the glue that keeps relationships together. If you and your mate haven’t yet included pornography in your joint sexual repertoire, it must be worth giving it a go. Beyond that, you could then consider making your own and even sharing it on sites such as : https://makelovenotporn.tv/ As they say, couples that play together, stay together.
Before going to the MLNP site – or the vast smorgasbord of sex provided by the likes of Pornhub – you could make a gentle start with the helpfully how-to Lovers’ Guide sex videos made for watching by couples, at: https://www.loversguide.com/better-sex-videos-downloads/