Many men love doggy-style sex for its pace and intensity, and sheer visceral thrill, as well as for the visuals and the feeling of dominance. It can also be great for both of you if you feel at all insecure about the facial expressions you make approaching orgasm, since you won’t be looking at each other’s face and can feel really free to let yourselves go. This can be a way of gaining in greater confidence, or if you feel the mood when you’re having sex generally could use a bit of a lift. For some women, though, there are issues with doggy-style sex. The stimulation offered might not be quite right, and there’s a risk of emotional disconnect – of feeling ignored.
Doggy-style sex positions in themselves offer little stimulation to the clitoris. If the man is especially well endowed, then the stimulation offered through the vaginal wall might be plenty, but the chances are you’ll be wanting to return to the golden rule that women don’t tend to experience orgasm through intercourse alone. When you start to have sex, let ‘foreplay ‘ continue all the way to orgasm for her, or until she is absolutely on the cusp and wants the man inside her now.
You can reach around and continue to stimulate her clitoris. Or she can use her hands or a toy on herself, supporting herself on one arm, or with her upper body pressed into pillows, or resting on a headboard – all variations which will affect the angle and feel of penetration, too.
If things are going too fast for the woman, she can control the pace by pushing back against the man, or by moving forward and lowering herself towards the horizontal. Men, ask your partner what she likes and what’s working, and try varying the ways you thrust into her, including changing pace.
Men, you can do a lot to make sure doggy-style sex remains a close and emotionally connected experience. Use your hands on your partner’s body. Caress and massage her back and sides, as well as her bum and thighs. She might like it as well if you reach and run your hands through her hair, gently tugging if you both want to make things a little rough. Use talk and tell her how good she looks, and feels. Throw yourself over and hold her close, even with the side of your face pressed against hers, depending on how tall you both are.
To vary things further, try standing doggy sex positions, with the woman maybe bent over a table or supporting herself against the wall. It can be great to do this in different areas of the house. The ‘table’ could be her study desk or a kitchen work surface, or maybe in the workshop at a bench with the tools pushed aside if you’ve got some DIY going on. It can be great to play sex games in different parts of the house, or garden, perhaps with some role-play thrown in there.