Guys, the first thing to remember when you want in on her bunny vibe play is that your ‘job’ between the sheets isn’t to pleasure her: it’s not a performance; you don’t ‘deliver orgasms’, as if your partner is merely a passive recipient. You get your pleasure; she gets hers – and haply the two shall meet. The toys are extra.
Make friends with her rabbit vibrator. Buy a new one to prove you’re cool! (It’s your sexiest new best f-buddy!) Have it there when you’re making love and aim to spend a long while lingering on sex play, delaying your orgasm – since it’s understandable that when a man has experienced his orgasm he goes off the boil awhile – but keeping yourself aroused as she masturbates you and offers you oral sex. Kiss her, go down on her, then set the vibrator to work – she might like you to go 69-style and tease her with your cock as you do this.
Unsure what to do most orgasmically? When she’s already aroused – what with your oral sex technique being so good and all – set the shaft rotating and dip just a little inside her vagina to get her natural lubricant on the vibrator, then work the tip around and over her clitoris, getting her ready for the more intense sensation of the bunny ears.
Play with the flickering bunny ears over her clitoris, holding the vibrator backwards so it’s only touching her here. This should be getting really intense for her – so take the plunge! That deep, swirling G spot sensation inside while you guide the bunny ears over her clitoris should prove just fabulous.
Once she’s had her first orgasm, take the ears off her clitoris and keep the shaft swirling inside her vagina – assuming she likes this. Massage around her labia. Get yourself hard again – it’s kind of normal to lose your erection while your concentrating on pleasuring her. When you’re hard, sink into her, thrusting slowly at first and gyrating in a figure of 8 pattern to stimulate her vaginal wall all round. Play with it and build the pace up gradually, thrusting in the ways you most want. As she becomes more and more aroused again, grind with your pubic bone against her clitoris. Try the CAT sex position for a while, and experiment too with more sex positions you most enjoy – deep missionary position sex can be great for you and keep the G spot stimulation great for her. Some women like the sex and the clitoral stimulation at this point to be really hard; others may like the clitoral stimulation to be more gentle.
One thing you can rely on: just as you get off totally on feeling your partner’s pleasure, so she’ll love you to be getting what you want from sex – and when you’re wrapped together close and your orgasm shudders through your body, that is also a wonderful and deeply sexual pleasure for her.
Sex toys can and should be a wonderful, pleasurable addition to the sex life you share. Guys, take any pressure you may feel off yourselves: it’s not a competition. Panic not!