Image from the Lovers’ Guide video download Sex Play
Foreplay: meaning the sex-play you have before penetrative sex? We think it’s a misnomer – when it might not be the precursor to anything but complete in itself. Oral sex and masturbation can themselves be the main event with your partner. To define foreplay, which we prefer to call sex play, and even made a Lovers’ Guide video with that name, we often think of a long, slow build-up to intercourse. This might take all day, with sexy texts and a prolonged build-up of feeling and desire for your partner. Romantic foreplay might mean gifts of flowers, as if you’re wooing your partner all over again. And it can mean getting your thoughts ready – the brain-sex of pair-bonding.
With plenty of anticipation and build up, you should both be physically and emotionally revved up for sex. After a day, are you physically and emotionally refreshed? To define foreplay, we might do worse than say that this is all the time you commit to the intimate bond with your partner – though without full-on intercourse necessarily being the end goal. Here are some tips and techniques you can enjoy together as we prepare to experience exquisite sex play.
Foreplay ideas for women
To define foreplay especially for women, we can begin with ways that make you feel sexy and sensual as a lover. Take time to relax, to re-energize, and to pamper yourself. This might mean an hour in the gym burning off stress – then a wallow in jacuzzi, steam-room, sauna. It might mean a massage, or simply an hour in a hot bath, scented. It might mean a cheeky glass of wine!
For more ideas, check this Lovers’ Guide article: Seven Ways To Be A Sensual Lover.
For sexy foreplay pleasing him, watch the Lovers’ Guide video download Sex Play. And consider new ways of offering oral sex and masturbation. No matter the precise techniques you choose, aim to build and not (yet) release your partner’s arousal. Many men experience orgasm – cum – just the once, then they’re pretty much done with this sex session. During foreplay, think about your having your orgasm first – every decent male lover knows that ‘she comes first’. Encourage your partner to lavish attentions on you.
Foreplay ideas for men
So, let’s say again, the golden rule for men is to do everything possible to allow her to come – reach her orgasm – first. Truth is, many women do not experience orgasm from intercourse alone. Offer oral sex and manual stimulation – there are much more sure fire ways to help her achieve her orgasm (she’ll be much happier having penetrative sex with you after that). So ‘foreplay’ for her is actually very often THE main event. Again, see the video download: Sex Play.
‘Foreplay’ for men – though maybe not quite so significantly as for women – can mean getting your body and mind in the right place – getting your brain-sex in gear and beginning to rev up. If you’ve had a long day, clear your mind – go to the gym, have a bike ride, and/or take a walk in the park. (Beers with the lads at the bar are not the best option.) What do you enjoy that makes you feel alive? What makes you feel that you are a sensual lover? If you have any unresolved issues left over from the day, get those out so you’re not bringing them to loving time shared with your partner. Stress is one of the big downers if you want to have great sex.
For sex play – sexy foreplay – ask what she likes – how your partner would like to be treated tonight. Share this site and ask if any lovemaking techniques appeal. Try the articles on oral sex and masturbation techniques for starters.
What is foreplay for each of you?
It may be that you are scouring the internet looking for answers – for ways to define foreplay – when really your best source of information might be yourself and your partner. Rather than feel you’re supposed to know all the answers, try as it were ‘Googling’ your partner. Talk about sex. Ask what’s best for him/her. This discussion too could be said to define our foreplay. You’ll have your own special ways of talking about matters intimate with your partner. If not – start today!
You might start to discuss sex in quite general terms. ‘What would you most like?’ ‘What would you like to try?’ (Watch out for questions that seem to require a response that everything’s fine – such as, for example, ‘How are you feeling about our sex life?’)
You might like to be more specific, in terms of techniques you could use while offering oral sex or masturbation.
Bring your partner to the Lovers’ Guide. Our video downloads are meant for couples to watch together.
Good luck! Enjoy.