When we pleasure ourselves, we usually adopt the same position. We might think of checking out different sex positions to keep things fresh with a partner – but we can get bored fingering ourselves in the same old way. The point here is to see how masturbation and orgasm feel in various different positions.
Maybe we stick with the same old because we think about masturbation for its functional benefits and not an expression of loving creativity with ourselves. This is too bad because though sometimes masturbation might be about a quickie with yourself, it also can be an opportunity for deeply emotional and arousing self-care and self-love.
What position you are in may not be the first thing you think about when masturbating, but the ways we hold our bodies when we masturbate matter. For example, many of us keep very stiff when we masturbate, and only relax once we have climaxed. This impacts how the sex we’re having with ourselves feels.
Ring The Changes And Be Innovative In The Way You Pleasure Yourself
There are countless of variations, but here are some basic ideas to spark your imagination. First off, there’s the antidote for those who tense up and never move. Before you begin, lie on your back and stretch your arms and legs out as far as possible, making your body into an “X” shape. Try to hold the stretch for ten seconds. Do this a few times before you masturbate. As you masturbate try to keep your body stretched out as much as is comfortable, think about it as if you are trying to take up as much space on the bed as you can.
The classic position for masturbation is the knees bent and hips open. Lie on your back with your feet on the floor and knees bent. Focus on how your hips feel, and the different kinds of hip movements that are comfortable and possible in this position. A variation of this position is to bring your knees close to your chest. This position is all about rocking your hips and opening them up to the energy that is created as you masturbate.
Masturbating on your knees may seem like an odd position but that is partly the point. Find a comfortable position on your knees, with a pillow underneath them. Try it with your body upright, as if standing on your knees. Be on your knees but leaning back resting on your calves You can even try to masturbate while on your hands and knees – though you’ll need to have at least one hand occupied, so be careful with your balance.
Not everyone will be flexible enough for the amazing heels over head masturbation sex position, but you can experiment with variations that will work for you. Lie on your back and bring your legs up so that they are pointing to your head. You can keep your legs together or spread them apart, you can bend your knees or keep them straight. In this position, you have access not just to your genitals but also your sides, your behind, and your legs. For comfort, put a pillow under your hips
The position called half on/half off is designed to get you playing with gravity. In this position, you want to have part of your body on a flat surface (like the bed or the floor) and another part of your body at a different level. So you might lie on your back near a wall with your legs up on the wall. Or try lying on your stomach at the edge of the bed with your waist and legs off the bed. Or masturbate while sitting up completely straight, so that your upper torso is sitting up and your lower body is lying flat.
To take it further, lie on your back either on the bed or the floor, but right by a wall. Position your waist so that your bum is right by the wall, and raise your legs going straight up the wall (it’s like that “bicycle” exercise position). A variation of this is to keep your bum slightly away from the wall and put your feet flat against the wall with your knees bent (so that when you push with your feet you are moving your body away from the wall). This position is another good one for exploring hip movements, and you can experiment with pushing against the wall with your feet as you masturbate.
The last suggestion for a solo masturbation is “all curled up” – it’s about drawing your body in on itself. You can curl up on your side, on your back, or on your hands and knees and lovingly excite yourself in that foetal-like position.
In all of these positions, you should enjoy having your genitals fully exposed. Try varying the way you stimulate the clitoris, labia and inner vagina. You should also find it easy to incorporate a sex toy – either for clitoral stimulation, penetrative excitement or even anal pleasure. When you try masturbating in these positions, once you’ve finished, stretch out, and pay close attention to how your body feels. Ring the changes and keep being innovative in the way you excite yourself.